Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Five days To Motivation

day 3
K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.
L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?
M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.
N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.
O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Five days To Motivation

day 2
F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.
G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.
H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.
I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.
J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Five Days To Motivation


Day 1

Change is a constant refrain from this page. What does it take for change to grow from idea to action? Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

Reading and watching the news recently we need to digest as much positive information as possible. With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? These tips I prepared from A to Z could be digested in one reading. I'm spliting them up into five days; in this way we get to meditate a little longer on each idea.

A - Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B - Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.


Monday, September 21, 2009

What Exactly Is Fabulous?

Fabulous At 30, 40, 50 And Beyond, OK "CW" just what do you mean by Fabulous? The bottom line, the reality is what is Fabulous for me may seem mediocre or mundane to someone else. My objective is to get a person to find and design their life to be Fabulous based on their own definition. To find each day exciting and adventurous, to CW, is the true definition of a Fabulous life. Don't get me wrong, spending a week on Richard Branson's private Necker island with two icon's, Marshall Sylver and Robert Allen, and creating a mastermind group with fifteen other professionals in a tropical paradise also qualifies as Fabulous. But if you only live for those type of experiences, life will be very gloomy and unfulfilled.
Count your blessings, look at the bright side of life are two ways of looking for the Fabulous in your life. Here's some example's of what I count as Fabulous in my life; do yourself a favor ad make your own Fabulous list and I will make you a promise; when finished you will have a smile on your face and you will glide through the rest of your day.
Fabulous Is;
Watching TV with my best friend and wife of twenty four years.
Knowing that The God who created the universe calls me friend.
Hearing, "I love you Pop Pop."
A huge wave crashing on the rocks and the resulting spray.
Giving a panhandler a $20 bill and looking in their eyes.
In the midst of tough times knowing it always makes me stronger.
The Journey.
Discovering what's on the other side of the hill.
An hour and a half hot bath my first hours home from Vietnam and never forgetting the feeling.
Looking down the tube of a turquoise wave about to break.
Monday mornings.
The smell of fresh cut grass.
Being in a stand still traffic jam and enjoying the moment.
Watching my wife with our grand daughters.
Growing up in the 50's.
The miracle of flying.
A helicopter ride over active Kilowaha Volcano.
Praising and worshiping my God.
Paying a strangers check in a restaurant anonymously.
Coming home.
Crying with my Mom when the National Anthem plays before a ball game.
Laying next to Dad as he left us to be with Mom.
Being a soldier in the US Army.
Looking at thousands of family and vacation photo's and knowing I was there when each one was taken.
Conquering a fear.
Kayaking off the coast of ST Croix.
The view from the top of Pikes Peak on a crystal clear day.
A crisply hit five iron with the ball landing on the green and rolling two feet from the pin .
Holding my Grand Daughter
Have a Fabulous week!!!!!!

Friday, September 18, 2009

Stand Up and Say Something

“Please, Stand Up and Say Something”

As it is with most of us over fifty years of age, we are attending more and more funerals. I’ve had a pet peeve with the final service at the funeral home the morning of the funeral. I should say I have a pet peeve with those close to the one who has passed.

The service and the prayers are always done very well with grace and dignity. The families are usually nicer to each other than they have been for years; all very proper and in good taste.

The real tragedy, other than the death itself, is when the presiding God person asks for people to say something, anything about the individual, its rare anyone does. I’ve observed only about half the time will a family member even offer a eulogy.

My wife and I had the sad occasion of attending our sister-in-laws mothers’ funeral two days ago. Deb’s mom and I had passing conversations a few times at family gatherings over the years, but I had little memory or knowledge of the type of person she was throughout her life.

On this occasion her son gave a better than average eulogy. And because of his words we learned she was a young go getter as a young lady, she was a great cook and enjoyed serving others. There were two daughters who offered not one word. This is the last and more than likely the only time in their lives to publicly praise this lovely lady and their mother. I don’t fault them, it’s incredibly hard to do under the emotional circumstances; thus the motivation to write this. I’m planting seeds to empower my readers to “Say Something” when the occasion presents itself.

I have to hand it to the Priest; he asked for others to speak and just waited. He waited, and waited as a long uncomfortable silence fell over the room. He waited; finally a woman stood and spoke. She offered her insight as to what it was like to be befriended by the deceased and her family when visiting their home. She expressed how much she felt a part of the family anytime she visited and just how much she would miss those occasions. It was so obvious the comfort and pleasure this brought to family and friends. Every other person in the room was grateful to the self appointed spokesperson for taking them off the hook. How beautiful it would have been if others would have joined the celebration of her life.

She was nervous I’m sure; but the hundred or so people who were there now knew much more about this fine woman and, I for one, had more empathy and felt closer to her than if the woman had stayed silent. What an honor bestowed on a woman who gave to her family and community over seventy years of life.

Her boldness gave one daughter the confidence to stand and pour out her heart. She told just what it would be like not to have the ability to talk with her mom. She explained how her mom was there at the birth of all her children and how it motivated her to do the same for her children. It was wonderful, she had joined the celebration of her mother’s life; a round of Kleenex please.

Do we all sit in silence because we’re afraid of showing emotion? Do we really believe we need to be some great orator in order to express what we feel about our family or friend? We must get over it; it’s not about you or me, it’s about taking the last public opportunity to express to those in attendance what this individual meant to us and our lives. It truly is about celebrating life, an individuals life; one who walked this planet that had impact in ours.

We need to gather our emotions and stand up and say something the next time we have the opportunity.


Wednesday, September 16, 2009

"To Those who would Teach"


Summer is about over and we all will concentrate a bit more
on that which we believe we are put on earth to accomplish.

As many of you know I have a desire (as you do) to awake the
masses or at least one person to come to the knowledge that
they have been put on this earth to serve others. What that
vehicle is and how I will accomplish this has changed in my mind
over the past three years a number of times. I've written a book,
created web sites, invested in real estate and continue to seek
guidance; there's still THE missing piece.

When leaving an event and in the months post event many feel
as though they are not getting to their true place as quick as
they believe others have, mainly because we were gently pushed
to make goals or promises to others and ourselves to arrive at
fulfillment in a short specific time period. I'm not downplaying
the necessity of Written Goals, although in the heat of a
positive gathering of like minded individuals we many times are
more attentive to the immediate surroundings the we are attentive
to the small voice inside us which knows better. We also tend to
compete with others (if only in our minds)who seemingly have
gotten it together in the time they professed they would.

Many receiving this have attained Masters and Doctorate degrees.
As an example after finishing High School CW decides he wanted
to have an MBA in business. CW attends an undergraduate college for
the first four years. In CW's third year he notices that a few of his
classmates from his freshman class are graduating with a BA in only
30 mos into his four years. Does the fact that others are moving
towards his goal at a quicker pace than CW mean that CW will not
attain his goal; of course not. Is there any doubt in CW's mind,
30 mos in, he will attain the MBA because others have gotten theirs
in a shorter time period, no. CW knows if he continues towards his
goal at his pace the MBA will be his in time. Our desires and dreams
we have today are no different. The vast majority of the mentors
and teachers we listen too were years and years in the process
before "over-night" success came.

At some point in our lives we have come to the conclusion there is
more to our lives than a nice home, great car, turquoise waters
vacations. We were put here for "THEM". If you can get to your
place in 6 mos., 1 year, 2 years or 15 years it's only important
to you and your maker. Be thoughtful and determined to be what
you were born to be, not what someone else expects you to be
only because you put both feet in your mouth at a seminar or
similar event. Today is a new day, reset the time line.

Your time will be here when least expected when you continue to
move in the direction towards your goals and dreams. Course
correction constantly, Do Not Park.

"My brethren, let not many of you become teachers, knowing that
we shall receive a stricter judgment." James 3:1

I love you guys and miss the physical surrounding of Like Minded
men and women. There are no coincidences and it's no coincidence
your in my life. As Les says; "Coincidence is God's way of staying

One of our, my, weaknesses is the inability to ask our peers for help.
Most of us have gone to great lengths to network and collect
business cards. Somewhere in your home or office is a treasure
of individuals you have already met who could catapult you to your
goals if we would only ask.

A good friend of mine once said;

"You have not because you ask not".

With great love;